What Every Parent MUST Know
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What if I told you (statistically) the greatest threat to your child’s well-being doesn’t come from terminal disease, and most definitely not from that nefarious stranger lurking about the playground? More children in the United States fall victim to acquaintance-based sex abuse than to cancer! Kidnapping is high risk, but an extremely low probability.
Count the number of friends your child has and realize that 1 in every 4 girls, and 1 in every 6 boys are sexually abused before they learn to drive a car! When you count kids in a classroom or on a soccer field, or at your child’s birthday party, it’s safe to assume there are molestation and rape victims among them. It doesn’t matter the school district, the socio-economic standing of the community, or even the reputation of the family. Question is….. is your child one of these victims?
Like rape, child molestation is one of the most under-reported crimes: only 1-10% are ever disclosed.
- Source: FBI Law Enforcement Bulletin
More than 90% of all sexual abuse victims know their perpetrator. Almost 50% of the offenders are household members and 38% are already acquaintances of the victims.
- Source: US Department of Justice. (1997) and Finkelhor and Ormond. (2001)
If your child is fortunate enough not to be one of the many victims of this crime, can you guarantee they will not come into contact with those individuals who are committing these appalling acts on their friends, cousins, or other teammates? Can you always watch over them?
What if I could help you teach your children how to Identify, Thwart and Report child predators?
Predator Incognito: The Official Kids’ Guide to Identifying Real Monsters is a groundbreaking children’s book exposing the strategies and tactics used by the most common of child predators – The Groomer; an acquaintance-based molester.
Using exciting artwork and couching the topic in the context of monsters and aliens, kids and parents alike will find this book both fully entertaining and informative. Its goal is to teach children how to safely Identify, Thwart, and Report child molesters.
In my 20+ years of working with at-risk youth, I have not come across another book like this. What a great way to engage and inform kids about a topic that is not always easy to approach. A fun tool with exciting artwork that parents and professionals can use to start conversations around safety and awareness. Melissa Brophy, LPC, Adolescent Therapist
A versatile tool for parents with a unique approach that appeals to kids of many ages, this book will be the one you come back to over and over as your kids grow up. Sonia Andrews, M.Ed, K-8 Gifted and Talented Consultant
As the mom of three kids I see this a great tool for children along with their parents. The graphics and narrative most definitely appeal to this age group and initiate communication. Lori Thompson, Preschool Assistant
Predator Incognito assists parents in having that difficult and awkward conversation with their children and does so at a level children can relate and understand. Dr. Jennifer Flack, Psy.D, LP, Psychologist and Child Therapist
WHAT MAKES THE BOOK SO EFFECTIVE?
- Predator Incognito focuses on the known “Grooming” predator (which accounts for 90% of all molestations) and not the dangerous stranger.
- Predator Incognito focuses primarily on the age demo of children most likely to suffer molestation; 7-13.
- Predator Incognito provides a Communication-based Model of Identification as opposed to the physical assault model. This allows children to identify and thwart before an attack based on recognizable communication patterns of predators.
- Predator Incognito delivers the most comprehensive predator awareness program while making this difficult subject palatable for parents to teach and children to learn.
- Predator Incognito uses entertainment-based strategies to make the topic deeply interesting for children, which fosters repeated engagement with the materials.
- Predator Incognito seeks to make reporting of predatory behavior less risky and shameful through reassurance that the incidents can be contained and protection can be provided.
Piercing The Bad Secret
Behind all acquaintance-based and inner-family sexual abuse there lies a “shared secret” between attacker and victim. As it is both the initial clue of predatory grooming as well as the lynchpin preventing reporting, Predator Incognito deals extensively with the formation and manipulation of this Bad Secret. Like a magic trick that loses all mystique and effectiveness once learned, the same can be said of the “Bad Secret” trick. Once children are taught how these secrets are being used against them for the protection of the attacker and towards their own harm, the fear of reprisal weakens and the child is empowered to report.
Predator S.T.E.P. Identification System
Predator Incognito is the first book to introduce The Predator S.T.E.P. Identification System, teaching children which secrets should trigger an alarm that the other person may be setting them up for attack or are trying to trick them into silence.
Secrets that can cause you…
Trouble – with parents or other authority figures
Pain – for yourself, family, friends, or pets
Molesters, pedophiles, and abusers have been using the same techniques throughout history to keep their crimes hidden. The lack of reporting indicates the use of the “Bad Secret” is highly effective. The “Bad Secret” however, is the Achilles heel of these criminals and understanding its role in the set-up and silencing of victims is a necessary component toward the empowerment of children against these crimes.
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There are few things more disturbing than the issue of child sexual abuse. Outside the despicable act itself which physically violates children and defiles their innocence, the crime is one that continues to destroy the victim’s life long after the final attack.
Crippled self-esteem and shame result in incalculable losses to our society due to poor school performance and dropouts, the likelihood of alcoholism, drug abuse, and related crime, as well as a tendency toward sexual promiscuity; which can result in prostitution, disease, and unwanted pregnancies. Sexually abused boys are more likely to become predators themselves, as well as having a fourteen times greater risk of committing SUICIDE than boys who were not molested. Victims’ lives can spiral downward into welfare dependency, incarceration or utter ruin. It’s reasonable to suggest the psychological and long term economic damage definitely outlasts and far outweighs the physical assault.
One would think such a terrible crime would have an arsenal of programs, advocates, and activists rooting this out of our society, and yet in comparison with causes such as Animal Cruelty or the Environment – child sex abuse has very few champions fighting the enemy.
FRONTLINE AGAINST CHILD PREDATORS:
- Stranger Danger
- Good Touch / Bad Touch
- Law Enforcement
Allow me to address the aforementioned strategies and players.
1. Stranger Danger
I think everyone knows and practices Stranger Danger with their kids. The program has been around for decades and is promoted in public schools… but the problem is this:
- More than 90% of all sexual abuse victims know their perpetrator. Almost 50% of the offenders are household members and 38% are already acquaintances of the victims. [source: US Dept of Justice (1997) and Finkelhor and Ormond (2001)]
- According to the U.S. Department of Justice, victims of rape and sexual assault report that nearly 3 out of every 4 incidents, the offender was not a stranger. Based on police-recorded incident data, in 90% of the rapes of children younger than 12, the child knew the offender. [source: Greenfield, et al 1997. Sex Offenses and Offenders: An Analysis of Data on Rape and Sexual Assault. Unites States Dept of Justice.]
When only 10% of attacks seem to involve strangers, I think Stranger Danger is an overly-hyped program with a great press agent and lousy practical advice for kids. What is needed is a program that deals with the Known Predators.
2. Good Touch / Bad Touch
There are many aspects about this program that have fallen under criticism, but the one I never hear voiced and which I feel is absolutely critical is that it teaches kids to respond to an assault only “after” it has taken place. It supposedly helps them identify someone having molested them, but gives no advice how to identify that person beforehand. Also if it’s such an effective program why do we have the following stats?
1 in 4 girls is sexually abused before the age of 14
1 in 6 boys is sexually abused before the age of 16
[source: Hopper, J. (1998) Child Sexual Abuse: Statistics, Research, Resources. Boston, MA Boston University School of Medicine]
So, Good Touch / Bad Touch teaches kids to identify a creep after they’ve been touched, and still roughly 21% of the population is being sexually abused. Not high marks for this program. What is needed is a program that can help children identify a predator before any assault!
3. LAW ENFORCEMENT
Law Enforcement does the best it is able to do with the limited resources it has available. But police can only act on hard evidence. Court sentencing laws still require the predator was reported, arrested, and then successfully prosecuted. Even in such a successful scenario, at least one child was sacrificed for the verdict.
The most common ages of children when sexual abuse occurs are between 8 and 12.
[source: David Finkelhor et al. A sourcebook on Child Sexual Abuse, Newbury Park: Sage Publications, 1986.]
And though there are great strides being made with online sting operations and chat-room predators…these criminals are not really connecting with the younger 8-12 age group.
Furthermore, the greatest obstacle to effective law enforcement is the fact victims are remaining silent.
Only 12% of all cases of child abuse are reported.
[source: Hanson, R.F., Resnick, H.S., Saunders, B.E., Kilpatrick, D.G., & Best, C. (1999) Factors Relating to the Reporting of Childhood Sexual Assault, Child Abuse and Neglect, (23) 559-569.]
…and consider the following from an FBI Law Enforcement Bulletin based on National Institute for Mental Health report:
- Like rape, child molestation is one of the most underreported crimes: only 1-10% are ever disclosed, with boys reporting far less than girls.
- The average child molester will molest 50 girls before being caught and convicted.
- A child molester that seeks out boys will molest 150 boys before being caught and convicted and he will commit at least 280 sexual crimes in his lifetime.
- The standard pedophile will commit 117 sexual crimes in their lifetime.
The problem is our law enforcement agencies CANNOT do anything until something is reported.
What is needed is a program that deals with children in the 7-13 age range and focuses heavily on the reporting of predatory behavior. If it generally takes 50 victims before a predator is caught, think of how many lives would have been saved had the first child spoke up.
Besides pushing Stranger Danger and Good Touch / Bad Touch and hoping law enforcement will catch these creeps… parents have not proven a very effective defense.
Need I remind you about the above stats that claim 50% off all offenses are committed by household members with another 40% coming from someone that is either known by the child or the parents.
And when 1 in 5 kids is being sexually abused before the age of 16, I think parents acting as the bodyguard is a proven failure.
Obviously parents cannot be everywhere all the time with their child. Coaches, Pastors, relatives, etc — those who have the parent’s trust, are carrying out these crimes.
What is needed is a program that parents can teach to their children and the children will be interested in learning. Children are the front-line against predators. They are with themselves ALL the time.
WHAT IS NEEDED?
- A program that deals with the Known Predators.
- A program that can help children identify a predator before any assault!
- A program that deals with children in the 7-13 age range and focuses heavily on the reporting of predatory behavior.
- A program that parents can teach to their children and the children will be interested in learning.
We have developed that very program.